DEAR MIKI: I am hoping you can help me. After being together for about six years, my son's father and I have split up. It has been about one year now, but I still love him very much. I have very, very strong feelings for this man. I finally left him and moved out about six months after our break up. I was a little scared for a bit, you know being on my own again as a single mother.
For about four months now we have been sexually active together once again, and it's happening once a week, every week. I love being with him too much, and I am scared I'm going to get hurt once again.
I left him before because he cheated on me, never admitting it though. I know he still talks to her on a regular basis. But still calls and comes over to get playing with me.
My questions to you are, will we get back together again or is this all in my head? Is he just using me for the sex, and if we do get back together again will we get married?
Signed, Missing Out on Love
DEAR MISSING OUT ON LOVE: Your ex is not a truly sincere guy. He's selfish and a manipulator, who is trying to work his way back into your life so you can help him with what he needs.
Getting back together is not a good choice for you and marriage would end up being nothing more than a really big disaster. Tell him if he wants casual sex from now on he should go out and pay for it, you are no longer free at his disposal.
DEAR MIKI: I recently ended a six and a half year relationship. I feel now that I'm dealing with many mixed feelings about what I've done.
The reason for the separation was that she wanted to move in together and I had doubts, as I know this was leading to marriage. We're both getting into our 30s and both feeling confused on what we will do now.
We've had fun together, travelled, and shared many laughs. It would be safe to say that we are best friends.
My family with whom I'm close never approved of her and I'm wondering if I have allowed this to interfere with my decision. She has told me that I'm the one for her and I know she's in a lot of pain right now. My gut says stay, and my mind says go. What should I do?
Signed, J
DEAR J: I sense that you have sacrificed a good thing by fearing commitment. You need to change your perception about feeling trapped or you will soon find yourself alone, and out of options for dates that are willing to wait forever.
I feel you should listen to your gut as your mind is playing tricks on you, and your family's opinion should not play a part where your heart desire is concerned.
DAILY AFFIRMATION: Make time to share a moment with someone you care about today.
